Special thanks to Paula Simmons for sharing this with us from the www.cancer.net site she visits often, since the death of her 9 year old daughter Mariah in the fall of 2008. The article was entitled "Grieving the Loss of A Child: - June 2009
Parents whose children have died say
that they never really “get over” the death of a child, but rather learn to
live with the loss.
The death of a child can force parents
to rethink their priorities and reexamine the meaning of life. It may seem
impossible to newly grieving parents, but parents do go on to find happiness
and reinvest in life again.
An important step for many parents is
to create a legacy for their child and make their child's life, no matter how
short, have a more complete purpose. Parents may choose to honor their child by
volunteering at a local hospital or a cancer support organization. Parents may
work to support interests their child once had, start a memorial fund, or plant
trees in their child’s memory. It is important to remember that it is never
disloyal to the deceased child to re-engage in life and to find pleasure in new
experiences.
Every child changes the lives of his
or her parents. Children show us new ways to love, new things to find joy in,
and new ways look to at the world.
A part of each child’s legacy is that
the changes he or she brings to a family continue after the child's death. The
memories of joyful moments you spent with your child and the love you shared
will live on and always be a part of you.
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