Grief is all consuming..

Grieving is all consuming and pervades every part of your being to the exclusion of everything else, your body, mind and spirit are all weathering a shock. The experience of grief and loss is extremely personal and different for everyone, but be gentle and compassionate with yourself. .

So many around us want to help us during this process – they want to help “make it better”, but they often have no idea of the inner turmoil you are experiencing, or mean well and will encourage you to do this or do that – do what is right for you.

It is so important that you consider and concentrate on yourself at this time. Listen to your heart, and do what feels right for you, even if it goes against family wishes and reember you are going to feel:

• Sadness, grief, sorrow, mourning, depression and even suicidal thoughts


• Guilt and regret; anger, disappointment, rage, fury


• Numbness, fear, panic and anxiety
  

Express your feelings so you can move through them, rather than getting stuck in them and know that it’s normal to experience:

• Inability to concentrate or focus on a task


• "Stinking thinking," often associated with feelings of guilt or remorse


• Confusion or short attention span


• Failure to process facts and details accurately


• Forgetfulness or even a sense of amnesia
  

Don't worry and be patient with yourself – these symptoms will lessen and disappear in time. Most professionals will remind you to avoid making any major life decisions until you feel a bit less foggy. So if you must make any big decisions, ask for help from others whom you trust.. Trust your gut...