Wednesday, December 22, 2010

It is better to have loved and lost.....

“It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”  This phrase is more than a cliche.. it's true!

I don’t know who penned those words but they are words to live by. The bond we all share with those we love is never broken ~ not even by death. Some people feel that if they are happy – if they laugh or smile – they are somehow betraying their loved one – I believe the best way to honor those we love who have gone before us, is to live a good life – to laugh, to love, and to do whatever possible to make the world a better place.

Of course we will all have difficult days, and no doubt wish that things could have been different? But they aren’t and life isn’t fair… So we all must move thru the pain so that we will not stay stuck in it. Tomorrow will always be better. If we stuff or deny our feelings, they may subside for a time – but they will return with a vengeance on another day at another time

The pain and heartbreak we feel with the loss of our child is inevitable and often overwhelming, but suffering is optional – it’s a choice we make.. As we continue on this journey and move thru and out of the darkness, we can see the light of joy and happiness and learn to smile often and enjoy life.

No doubt, if we had the chance to speak to our children and ask for their advice, they would tell us for sure that they are happier and more at peace than they’ve ever been before. I would also trust that they would encourage us to be happy ~ to enjoy our precious time here and to try not to waste time suffering in sorrow…

Our greatest gift to our children and ourselves is to find peace and happiness during this holiday season and to continue living a good life as the new year arrives and in the years ahead...  Don't you belive that if the tables were reversed, and we were in heaven, that finding peace, joy and happiness now and in the future is what we would want and hope that our children would do ~ so know that is their wish for us also and it helps to honor them......

God Bless and Find Peace this holiday season and the year ahead...

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